Today when I went , as a routine, to my french classes I saw the place had a completely unique look for 'the day'. The usual dull GD Somani School was today beautifully decorated for a wedding. Lavish decorations, welcoming red carpets, flowers all over, lots of people gathered, dressed beautifully....there was happiness in the air....
Certain things told me it was a Marwari wedding (ummmm don't ask me the reasons)
I saw the bride & the groom. The varmala rasm was on. There was loads of shyness in the eyes of the bride. She was looking as gorgeous as anyother woman would look on her wedding day, the D day of her life... elegant and graceful.
The groom (as everybody knows Maru guys don't really look that smart) as expected was just ok looking... ok sorry for the simple & brutal truth.
I love weddings and so kept thinking for a while of the various kinds of emotions that the bride must be experiencing. In a few hours she will leave her own house. the house she was born & brought up in, where she has spent her beautiful 20-25 years. The house where she could, even with her eyes shut, find the stuff she wanted. Everything was so damn 'HERS'. And then suddenly today she will have to leave behind everyone & everything. Yes, there is lots of pain inside her heart for the same reason but as usual there is another side to this coin too. She is happy. Amazingly happy. She had waited to belong to someone since she was a small child. The prince charming she had always dreamed about. She will have someone who will be so concerned about her, will love her till his last breath. She will dedicate the rest of her life to him & he will to her.......
The bride has a different kind of glow on her face. She is glowing out of happiness. Blushing all the while. Another emotion she is struggling with is 'anxiety'. Loads of anxiety. She will have to go to an entirely new place amongst entirely new people. She doesn't know how her in-laws will turn out to be. Will they be able to give her the same affection her family gave? Will she be able to do the same with them? Their tastes, their lifestyle, their habits, everything will be so different from her parents' house. Whoa! ''her house'' has already become ''her parents' house''. My mother says girls are meant to go to the 'other house' because God has made women so emotionally powerful that she has the capacity to handle two families & keep them together. A woman alone has the ability to, twice in her life, adapt to different lifestyles. First when she is born & second when she marries and goes to her husband's house. This is the last time probably that it is being called her husband's house. From tomorrow onwards it will be 'her house', 'her family'..... She will win over everyone's heart & tie everybody with her bond of love. Then there is a fear at the back of her mind: Has she chosen the right life partner???? only time will tell....
There is a new feeling called ''love'' inside her which overpowers all her fears & anxieties. And she moves one step forward in her life.......
