Layers of a person.....there are so many layers of a personality, some of them known and some unknown. Many a times it happens that we don't even understand all the layers of our own personality.....i know some may not agree saying that they know themselves very well...but some others who agree will understand that certain people in our life come and make us realize the other layers unknown to us ......
Likewise we make others recognize their true self when we hold such a position in their life that our opinion matters....
Letsee it in this way- when we meet somebody for the first time just some introduction takes place, then we start knowing him/her...at different occasions the person to whom we are talking has different circumstances around him; and so someday he/she may come across as a busy soul indifferent to our conversations, some other day we realize it was too early a judgement passed and he/she is very caring and sensitive always available to help....then when only once he /she couldn't make it for us we think- see my opinion earlier was absolutely right and so it goes on and on...
Until one day we realize let me first check the layers I have had in my relations or at least with that one person whom I have been judging recently every now and then. hmmm now see the other side:
Instance: Whenever he/ she needed me, was I there? ummm ''YES'' I guess most of the times when at least I was aware of the problem
Explanation: The '' most of the times'' should be taken into consideration, but then maybe my 100% wasn't upto the mark for him/her
Instance: He/she was a stranger but still helped me
Explanation: Stranger but it was his/her choice to help and after that we were friends, so friends aren't strangers
Instance: He/she was busy and tired, did I understand him/her and offer support?
Explanation: I'm afraid no I didnt....actually I needed him/her too...and was feeling that I was being ignored
and the instances are endless and the explanations too weak......
A friend of mine once said- Everybody thinks they are giving their 100% in every relation but the 100% varies with different individuals...
Understand yourself and other people too.....
Layers of a person are like layers of soil.... So maybe we can cherish the soft layers of those who are close to us and at the same time help them soften the bedrock layer of their personality.....
think about it!
Likewise we make others recognize their true self when we hold such a position in their life that our opinion matters....
Letsee it in this way- when we meet somebody for the first time just some introduction takes place, then we start knowing him/her...at different occasions the person to whom we are talking has different circumstances around him; and so someday he/she may come across as a busy soul indifferent to our conversations, some other day we realize it was too early a judgement passed and he/she is very caring and sensitive always available to help....then when only once he /she couldn't make it for us we think- see my opinion earlier was absolutely right and so it goes on and on...
Until one day we realize let me first check the layers I have had in my relations or at least with that one person whom I have been judging recently every now and then. hmmm now see the other side:
Instance: Whenever he/ she needed me, was I there? ummm ''YES'' I guess most of the times when at least I was aware of the problem
Explanation: The '' most of the times'' should be taken into consideration, but then maybe my 100% wasn't upto the mark for him/her
Instance: He/she was a stranger but still helped me
Explanation: Stranger but it was his/her choice to help and after that we were friends, so friends aren't strangers
Instance: He/she was busy and tired, did I understand him/her and offer support?
Explanation: I'm afraid no I didnt....actually I needed him/her too...and was feeling that I was being ignored
and the instances are endless and the explanations too weak......
A friend of mine once said- Everybody thinks they are giving their 100% in every relation but the 100% varies with different individuals...
Understand yourself and other people too.....
Layers of a person are like layers of soil.... So maybe we can cherish the soft layers of those who are close to us and at the same time help them soften the bedrock layer of their personality.....
think about it!
