In life we always come across two pathways... The first path is the ''moral'' one & the other is ''immoral''.... However cliched this may sound, making a choice every time is altogether a unique experience...
The immoral path is easy to choose, satisfies our short term desires, but doesn't guarantee long term success and happiness. On the other hand the moral path is difficult to walk on, would seem to bring pains but is the ultimate one.
Someone had once told me whenever we do something wrong or choose the insincere way, God always gives us an option.... It is so true. He slowly whispers that you are doing ''wrong''... Our heart asks us again & again 'Am I doing the right thing?' But we just ignore the call of our conscience for short term pleasures, we allow ourselves to be surrendered to the moment's temptation and forget about everything and everybody else. But our inner voice, our intuition would keep pinching us and warning us about the unseen pitfalls that this path would bring. We wouldn't really have the peace of mind to have a sound sleep.
On the other hand if we gather the courage to choose a difficult but right path, we might face many obstacles but at the same time God gives us the ability to face everything. We would continuously feel God's presence and approval. The peace of mind will keep a smile on our face even in the toughest situation. The smile on our face would actually be the smile of our conscience. We would love ourselves and therefore, love the people around us too.
Because to give love to anybody else we first need to love ourselves to the fullest.
We lie about different things to 'n' number of people in our lives but the day we lie to ourselves that is the end of God's existence in our souls.
The beauty of a person lies in this clear conscience... So the next time when any unknown & unseen person asks you how do you look or you judge yourself don't say anything on the basis of what you see in the mirror... judge yourself on the basis of the mirror of your soul; ask yourself 'Have I always taken the right path?' , 'Is my mind at peace?' , 'Do i actually get a sound sleep?'
I'm asking these questions to myself. I guess my looks are AVERAGE! (Hope the answer would only improve as time passes by)
:)
Friday, March 5, 2010
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
EMOTIONS OF A BRIDE
Today when I went , as a routine, to my french classes I saw the place had a completely unique look for 'the day'. The usual dull GD Somani School was today beautifully decorated for a wedding. Lavish decorations, welcoming red carpets, flowers all over, lots of people gathered, dressed beautifully....there was happiness in the air....
Certain things told me it was a Marwari wedding (ummmm don't ask me the reasons)
I saw the bride & the groom. The varmala rasm was on. There was loads of shyness in the eyes of the bride. She was looking as gorgeous as anyother woman would look on her wedding day, the D day of her life... elegant and graceful.
The groom (as everybody knows Maru guys don't really look that smart) as expected was just ok looking... ok sorry for the simple & brutal truth.
I love weddings and so kept thinking for a while of the various kinds of emotions that the bride must be experiencing. In a few hours she will leave her own house. the house she was born & brought up in, where she has spent her beautiful 20-25 years. The house where she could, even with her eyes shut, find the stuff she wanted. Everything was so damn 'HERS'. And then suddenly today she will have to leave behind everyone & everything. Yes, there is lots of pain inside her heart for the same reason but as usual there is another side to this coin too. She is happy. Amazingly happy. She had waited to belong to someone since she was a small child. The prince charming she had always dreamed about. She will have someone who will be so concerned about her, will love her till his last breath. She will dedicate the rest of her life to him & he will to her.......
The bride has a different kind of glow on her face. She is glowing out of happiness. Blushing all the while. Another emotion she is struggling with is 'anxiety'. Loads of anxiety. She will have to go to an entirely new place amongst entirely new people. She doesn't know how her in-laws will turn out to be. Will they be able to give her the same affection her family gave? Will she be able to do the same with them? Their tastes, their lifestyle, their habits, everything will be so different from her parents' house. Whoa! ''her house'' has already become ''her parents' house''. My mother says girls are meant to go to the 'other house' because God has made women so emotionally powerful that she has the capacity to handle two families & keep them together. A woman alone has the ability to, twice in her life, adapt to different lifestyles. First when she is born & second when she marries and goes to her husband's house. This is the last time probably that it is being called her husband's house. From tomorrow onwards it will be 'her house', 'her family'..... She will win over everyone's heart & tie everybody with her bond of love. Then there is a fear at the back of her mind: Has she chosen the right life partner???? only time will tell....
There is a new feeling called ''love'' inside her which overpowers all her fears & anxieties. And she moves one step forward in her life.......
Certain things told me it was a Marwari wedding (ummmm don't ask me the reasons)
I saw the bride & the groom. The varmala rasm was on. There was loads of shyness in the eyes of the bride. She was looking as gorgeous as anyother woman would look on her wedding day, the D day of her life... elegant and graceful.
The groom (as everybody knows Maru guys don't really look that smart) as expected was just ok looking... ok sorry for the simple & brutal truth.
I love weddings and so kept thinking for a while of the various kinds of emotions that the bride must be experiencing. In a few hours she will leave her own house. the house she was born & brought up in, where she has spent her beautiful 20-25 years. The house where she could, even with her eyes shut, find the stuff she wanted. Everything was so damn 'HERS'. And then suddenly today she will have to leave behind everyone & everything. Yes, there is lots of pain inside her heart for the same reason but as usual there is another side to this coin too. She is happy. Amazingly happy. She had waited to belong to someone since she was a small child. The prince charming she had always dreamed about. She will have someone who will be so concerned about her, will love her till his last breath. She will dedicate the rest of her life to him & he will to her.......
The bride has a different kind of glow on her face. She is glowing out of happiness. Blushing all the while. Another emotion she is struggling with is 'anxiety'. Loads of anxiety. She will have to go to an entirely new place amongst entirely new people. She doesn't know how her in-laws will turn out to be. Will they be able to give her the same affection her family gave? Will she be able to do the same with them? Their tastes, their lifestyle, their habits, everything will be so different from her parents' house. Whoa! ''her house'' has already become ''her parents' house''. My mother says girls are meant to go to the 'other house' because God has made women so emotionally powerful that she has the capacity to handle two families & keep them together. A woman alone has the ability to, twice in her life, adapt to different lifestyles. First when she is born & second when she marries and goes to her husband's house. This is the last time probably that it is being called her husband's house. From tomorrow onwards it will be 'her house', 'her family'..... She will win over everyone's heart & tie everybody with her bond of love. Then there is a fear at the back of her mind: Has she chosen the right life partner???? only time will tell....
There is a new feeling called ''love'' inside her which overpowers all her fears & anxieties. And she moves one step forward in her life.......
Sunday, December 6, 2009
JUST WHEN....
Just when I think life is going smooth without any speed breakers, my belief is let down
Just when I think I have achieved what I want, the achievement slips out of my hands
Just when I am about to agree to facts, a signboard tells me 'Facts have changed'
Just when I gather courage, I am discouraged by life's moves
Just when I take the right path, I am forced to take a U-turn
Just when life starts looking beautiful, the painting goes off color
Just when I start enjoying my dream world, I am shaken by the brutal truth of life
Just when I am clear in my mind, confusion sinks in
Just when I reach my comfort zone, a shift takes place
Just when I intend to ask questions to life, a thought crosses my mind and says 'Who do you think will answer?'
Just when I am about to say a yes, life says no
Just when I think my life is perfect, it just seems more IMPERFECT than ever before........
Just when I think I have achieved what I want, the achievement slips out of my hands
Just when I am about to agree to facts, a signboard tells me 'Facts have changed'
Just when I gather courage, I am discouraged by life's moves
Just when I take the right path, I am forced to take a U-turn
Just when life starts looking beautiful, the painting goes off color
Just when I start enjoying my dream world, I am shaken by the brutal truth of life
Just when I am clear in my mind, confusion sinks in
Just when I reach my comfort zone, a shift takes place
Just when I intend to ask questions to life, a thought crosses my mind and says 'Who do you think will answer?'
Just when I am about to say a yes, life says no
Just when I think my life is perfect, it just seems more IMPERFECT than ever before........
Saturday, November 14, 2009
NOTHING
NOTHINGNESS.... sometimes our life is full of nothings, full of emptiness, full of vacuum.... The nihility can be quite painful and yet at the same time this phase (yes its just a phase of our life) can teach us to struggle out of the most difficult times..... An individual can make the best or the worst out of it....kind of make-it-or-break-it situation....
A girl was once very focused, determined & clear in her mind... She knew what it was that she had to do, in which direction she will take her life. Yes, she was the one who was giving directions to life and it was never the other way round. She was her own BOSS. She always used to put in her best efforts at whatever challenge she had in front of her. Always doing things in the right way, never choosing the wrong path. The wrong ways and path were non-existent in her life. Remember she chose directions in which her life has to head.... Everything was going smooth when suddenly (I think life had had enough of her orders) life decided to toss the game the other way round.... Yes, this time LIFE was the boss... She had to face a failure and this was unbearable for a person who had never ever faced one. She was shattered at life's brutal step against her and yes NOTHINGNESS seeped in her (and it seemed it would stay for a long time)
She finally had to face the phase she was running away from for years. For hours she used to analyse her state of mind and conclude nothing, just nothing. Talking to herself she said ''I am NOTHING. My existence means nothing to this world. Nothing at all. Yet then I see myself and say that God wouldn't have created me just like that. There must be some reason, a purpose, an aim, a goal, an opportunity not yet explored. WHY don't I already have it clearly written on my hand what exactly I am meant to do? But then if it was so easy what is the sense? If I wont face any hardships how will I realise what finally WINNING means. If we don't have sorrows in our lives, we won't understand what HAPPINESS exactly feels like, it would be just another thing. And her mind kept switching from a learned philosopher to a scared child searching an answer.... She wasn't being able to make the best use of her phase of nothingness...... TO BE CONTD.....
A girl was once very focused, determined & clear in her mind... She knew what it was that she had to do, in which direction she will take her life. Yes, she was the one who was giving directions to life and it was never the other way round. She was her own BOSS. She always used to put in her best efforts at whatever challenge she had in front of her. Always doing things in the right way, never choosing the wrong path. The wrong ways and path were non-existent in her life. Remember she chose directions in which her life has to head.... Everything was going smooth when suddenly (I think life had had enough of her orders) life decided to toss the game the other way round.... Yes, this time LIFE was the boss... She had to face a failure and this was unbearable for a person who had never ever faced one. She was shattered at life's brutal step against her and yes NOTHINGNESS seeped in her (and it seemed it would stay for a long time)
She finally had to face the phase she was running away from for years. For hours she used to analyse her state of mind and conclude nothing, just nothing. Talking to herself she said ''I am NOTHING. My existence means nothing to this world. Nothing at all. Yet then I see myself and say that God wouldn't have created me just like that. There must be some reason, a purpose, an aim, a goal, an opportunity not yet explored. WHY don't I already have it clearly written on my hand what exactly I am meant to do? But then if it was so easy what is the sense? If I wont face any hardships how will I realise what finally WINNING means. If we don't have sorrows in our lives, we won't understand what HAPPINESS exactly feels like, it would be just another thing. And her mind kept switching from a learned philosopher to a scared child searching an answer.... She wasn't being able to make the best use of her phase of nothingness...... TO BE CONTD.....
Monday, October 19, 2009
THE LOST BATTLE
BATTLE..... is it always necessary to win it or do we sometimes also be satisfied losing it? no no don't just jump to a conclusion that this is the first time I have lost a battle and so this instant post... There have been many such occasions in my life but yet on some of them it wasn't depressing, there was a feeling that my loosing it was making the other person happy... and believe me loosing instead seemed to be the best option available..... The opponent becomes so important for us that his/her winning becomes extremely important.....
Then the question arises "Why do we at all have a battle with such an important person? My mind answers "They are important wont be realizable if such situations don't arise; its having a battle with such people that actually affects us the most."
"How is it possible that they don't see our happiness?" My mind "Its a difference of perception, maybe they think our happiness lies in the decision they have taken." Its funny both of us are seeking each other' happiness when finally its the togetherness that will bring the true contentment to our lives......
Very often we realize it quite late that differences do come in opinions, fights do happen, arguments take place, and all other unpleasant things happen..... but they happen first of all because the opinion of the person matters.... otherwise if strangers think anything it doesn't really matter.... What matters is the presence and perception of our loved ones... our near & dear ones....
Disagreements should never be misunderstood to be a lack of compatibility..... it maybe just that someone wanted the best for us and was thinking of better options than we have thought of..... but very often its not possible to think so positively at the time of a battle.....
I fear that it will be too late until we realize our mistakes, until we realize their importance, until we realize why it was bothering so much to hear a different perception from someone, why the rejection of our feelings by someone mattered, why disagreements happened, until.........
Thinking of all this my mind itself is divided into 2 parts & having a huge battle....
If its too late already then I must say its a LOST BATTLE now.......
But if its not late go on take some steps to make it a WIN WIN SITUATION.....
THINK ABOUT IT!
Then the question arises "Why do we at all have a battle with such an important person? My mind answers "They are important wont be realizable if such situations don't arise; its having a battle with such people that actually affects us the most."
"How is it possible that they don't see our happiness?" My mind "Its a difference of perception, maybe they think our happiness lies in the decision they have taken." Its funny both of us are seeking each other' happiness when finally its the togetherness that will bring the true contentment to our lives......
Very often we realize it quite late that differences do come in opinions, fights do happen, arguments take place, and all other unpleasant things happen..... but they happen first of all because the opinion of the person matters.... otherwise if strangers think anything it doesn't really matter.... What matters is the presence and perception of our loved ones... our near & dear ones....
Disagreements should never be misunderstood to be a lack of compatibility..... it maybe just that someone wanted the best for us and was thinking of better options than we have thought of..... but very often its not possible to think so positively at the time of a battle.....
I fear that it will be too late until we realize our mistakes, until we realize their importance, until we realize why it was bothering so much to hear a different perception from someone, why the rejection of our feelings by someone mattered, why disagreements happened, until.........
Thinking of all this my mind itself is divided into 2 parts & having a huge battle....
If its too late already then I must say its a LOST BATTLE now.......
But if its not late go on take some steps to make it a WIN WIN SITUATION.....
THINK ABOUT IT!
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
LAYERS
Layers of a person.....there are so many layers of a personality, some of them known and some unknown. Many a times it happens that we don't even understand all the layers of our own personality.....i know some may not agree saying that they know themselves very well...but some others who agree will understand that certain people in our life come and make us realize the other layers unknown to us ......
Likewise we make others recognize their true self when we hold such a position in their life that our opinion matters....
Letsee it in this way- when we meet somebody for the first time just some introduction takes place, then we start knowing him/her...at different occasions the person to whom we are talking has different circumstances around him; and so someday he/she may come across as a busy soul indifferent to our conversations, some other day we realize it was too early a judgement passed and he/she is very caring and sensitive always available to help....then when only once he /she couldn't make it for us we think- see my opinion earlier was absolutely right and so it goes on and on...
Until one day we realize let me first check the layers I have had in my relations or at least with that one person whom I have been judging recently every now and then. hmmm now see the other side:
Instance: Whenever he/ she needed me, was I there? ummm ''YES'' I guess most of the times when at least I was aware of the problem
Explanation: The '' most of the times'' should be taken into consideration, but then maybe my 100% wasn't upto the mark for him/her
Instance: He/she was a stranger but still helped me
Explanation: Stranger but it was his/her choice to help and after that we were friends, so friends aren't strangers
Instance: He/she was busy and tired, did I understand him/her and offer support?
Explanation: I'm afraid no I didnt....actually I needed him/her too...and was feeling that I was being ignored
and the instances are endless and the explanations too weak......
A friend of mine once said- Everybody thinks they are giving their 100% in every relation but the 100% varies with different individuals...
Understand yourself and other people too.....
Layers of a person are like layers of soil.... So maybe we can cherish the soft layers of those who are close to us and at the same time help them soften the bedrock layer of their personality.....
think about it!
Likewise we make others recognize their true self when we hold such a position in their life that our opinion matters....
Letsee it in this way- when we meet somebody for the first time just some introduction takes place, then we start knowing him/her...at different occasions the person to whom we are talking has different circumstances around him; and so someday he/she may come across as a busy soul indifferent to our conversations, some other day we realize it was too early a judgement passed and he/she is very caring and sensitive always available to help....then when only once he /she couldn't make it for us we think- see my opinion earlier was absolutely right and so it goes on and on...
Until one day we realize let me first check the layers I have had in my relations or at least with that one person whom I have been judging recently every now and then. hmmm now see the other side:
Instance: Whenever he/ she needed me, was I there? ummm ''YES'' I guess most of the times when at least I was aware of the problem
Explanation: The '' most of the times'' should be taken into consideration, but then maybe my 100% wasn't upto the mark for him/her
Instance: He/she was a stranger but still helped me
Explanation: Stranger but it was his/her choice to help and after that we were friends, so friends aren't strangers
Instance: He/she was busy and tired, did I understand him/her and offer support?
Explanation: I'm afraid no I didnt....actually I needed him/her too...and was feeling that I was being ignored
and the instances are endless and the explanations too weak......
A friend of mine once said- Everybody thinks they are giving their 100% in every relation but the 100% varies with different individuals...
Understand yourself and other people too.....
Layers of a person are like layers of soil.... So maybe we can cherish the soft layers of those who are close to us and at the same time help them soften the bedrock layer of their personality.....
think about it!
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Beautiful Experiences
Today I intend to take you to an entirely different journey of experiences..... hope I'll be successful...
There are so many daily life experiences which we don't enjoy because of our fast paced life. We never have a reason to be sad, then why do we always search for a reason to be happy? Why don't we cherish the small yet beautiful moments of life?
When I got up in the morning, I felt the purity of my prayer to God.....
When I went to my balcony, I first closed my eyes and felt the fresh air & when I opened my eyes, I admired the beauty of early morning, my eyes felt blessed....
When my cup of tea was kept in front of me, hmmmm I smelled the aroma of fresh ginger tea...
When I looked at my parents I felt an amazing pleasure to see them smile at me.....
When I went for a shower I could feel the water caress me like it had never before...
When I was eating food, like a gourmand I could relish my simple dal rice...
The flowers with which I decorated the temple seemed so very beautiful....
The silence in the church sounded so peaceful to me.....
When I went for a walk with a loved one it was one of the most beautiful moments of my life.....
When I observed the gestures of a 6 month old baby I felt like being her age again.......
When a ten year old was playing with his friends I felt like being his age again......
the innocence of both left me feeling awed equally.......
When I went on a drive without switching on the usual AC, I could feel the chilly breeze on my face & a long drive was never this beautiful before......
It felt relaxing to walk on the wet sand on the beach.....
The sound of the droplets of water is the most melodious rhythm I have ever heard....
And the instances are countless and priceless....
I could experience heaven in all these small moments.....
SO do we actually need any more reasons to be happy and feel blessed?????THINK ABOUT IT!!!
There are so many daily life experiences which we don't enjoy because of our fast paced life. We never have a reason to be sad, then why do we always search for a reason to be happy? Why don't we cherish the small yet beautiful moments of life?
When I got up in the morning, I felt the purity of my prayer to God.....
When I went to my balcony, I first closed my eyes and felt the fresh air & when I opened my eyes, I admired the beauty of early morning, my eyes felt blessed....
When my cup of tea was kept in front of me, hmmmm I smelled the aroma of fresh ginger tea...
When I looked at my parents I felt an amazing pleasure to see them smile at me.....
When I went for a shower I could feel the water caress me like it had never before...
When I was eating food, like a gourmand I could relish my simple dal rice...
The flowers with which I decorated the temple seemed so very beautiful....
The silence in the church sounded so peaceful to me.....
When I went for a walk with a loved one it was one of the most beautiful moments of my life.....
When I observed the gestures of a 6 month old baby I felt like being her age again.......
When a ten year old was playing with his friends I felt like being his age again......
the innocence of both left me feeling awed equally.......
When I went on a drive without switching on the usual AC, I could feel the chilly breeze on my face & a long drive was never this beautiful before......
It felt relaxing to walk on the wet sand on the beach.....
The sound of the droplets of water is the most melodious rhythm I have ever heard....
And the instances are countless and priceless....
I could experience heaven in all these small moments.....
SO do we actually need any more reasons to be happy and feel blessed?????THINK ABOUT IT!!!
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